The Walker Blog

We had Cathy's parents for a week and then Steve's dad and Sue Ann were here for the actual holiday. While they were all here we did a lot of fun things and took a lot of great pictures. One fun thing that we did was take Gus to meet the Santa elf at the mall. He was so cute when meeting the elf and was all smiles. We're sure that this time next year will be a different story, but for his first picture, it was priceless. Here's the picture:


One day while they were here, Cathy brough Gus and her parents to The Hill Building at ATC to meet Steve for lunch and see the building. Cathy dressed Gus in a really cute tie onesie and matching orange shoes. Here are some pictures from that:





Cathy's parents left and then a few days later, Steve's dad and Sue Ann came down for their visit. They brought Gus some fun Purdue gear and we took some pictures of the three of them all decked out in black and yellow!

We had our first post-placement visit and it went well. We have one more in January and then the paperwork for finalization can be submitted to the court in Michigan. We don't know how long it'll take for the finalization to be granted, but we're hoping that it'll all be finalized before Gus turns one.

We are gearing up for our first Christmas as a family. The gifts have all been bought and it's sure to be a very special Christmas for everyone! This will be the first time in several years that Cathy's parents won't be coming down to spend the days after Christmas/New Years with us. Cathy is sad about it, but understands. It's hard to be away from family, but it's especially difficult during the holidays. Thankfully we have Gus to focus on, and we'll make sure that his first Christmas is a very special one.

We don't know what 2011 will bring for us, but we are so very thankful for all that 2010 has given us. We started the year with a recent submission of our formal application for adoption. We were waiting patiently (or, not so patiently if we're being honest) to begin our home studies and were so nervous about them. January and February were the months that they took place, and then March was when they were submitted. We were anxious to go and meet with Doris and finally get on the Waiting Families list! Little did we know that just 33 days from the day we did meet with Doris (April 1st, 2010), we'd find out that Gus's birth mother had picked us to raise Gus. We thought we'd have a month to really prepare for him, and it was only a week later that we got the call that his birth mom was in labor. The months from that point are all so special and have been filled with so much joy (and sleeplessness).

We hope you've enjoyed reading Gus's blog each Tuesday and have enjoyed seeing the pictures and videos. We absolutely love sharing them with friends and family and hope that they make everyone smile.

Merry Christmas and we'll see you in 2011!
:)
The Walkers

Where to start?? Right after Mindy Jo passed, Cathy had the opportunity to help a friend of one of the MOMS Club members. The family had a cat named Hobo and they had to relocate for health purposes. They asked if anyone could take Hobo for a few months until they were able to bring him to their new place. Cathy asked Steve about it and he said sure. We had Hobo with us for just over a week when Hobo's mom called to say that they'd be able to take him sooner than they had hoped! Just when Toebe was getting to love Hobo, it was time for him to go. This left Toebe very sad and he walked around the house crying and looking for Hobo.

Our neighbor Wendy wanted to adopt a puppy from the Wake County SPCA and had told Cathy about it. Cathy went online to the SPCA's website and saw that they had an October special... $20 cat adoptions! So on Wednesday, October 27th we went to the SPCA to see the kitties and fell in love with two. One was named Quincy and the other was Perry Como. We decided to adopt them both, and we renamed them.



Cathy's parents are coming today for a week long visit and then Steve's dad and Sue Ann are coming next Wednesday through Saturday for the holiday. We're very excited to spend time with them and for them to spend time with Gus!!

We'll post again soon! In the meantime, be sure to check Gus's blog every Tuesday for updates and pictures!!!
:)
The Walkers

So it's been over a month since we last posted and so much has happened! In case you didn't know, Gus has his own blog (he's such an over-achiever) and it's updated every Tuesday. You can find the link to his blog on the side of this blog... definitely subscribe so you can follow his growth and development. He's now 20 weeks and has quite the personality.
Gus will light up when he sees his mom. He is, hands-down, a mama's boy. He loves-loves-loves Cathy. He should, she is staying home with him and they spend their days laughing, snuggling, and getting to know each other. Gus is a VERY happy little guy and is always laughing, chatting, and smiling. He likes to be talked to, and will eagerly talk back when he's being engaged in conversation.

A few weeks ago we had dinner at McDonald's (yes... not the healthiest choice, but it was 7pm and we needed to get Gus home for bed) and had salads. Well, we paid for it because we both came down with an EXTREME case of food poisoning. We both were up all night throwing up, and thankfully our neighbor Wendy came over in the morning and took Gus for us so we could sleep. She also ran to CVS and got us some crackers, Pepto and Gatorade. She's an amazing friend!

Two weeks ago we drove up to Indiana to surprise Steve's dad for his 60th surprise birthday. It was a wonderful occasion and it really meant the world to his dad for us to come up. He got to see Gus and he and Sue Ann were both amazed at how big Gus had gotten! It was a quick weekend trip, but we went to the oldest orchard in Indiana, and we enjoyed our time with them. They're planning on coming to see us for Thanksgiving, and Gus will be six months!

Back at the beginning of September, Cathy's parents came for a visit and we went to the beach with them. It was a great visit and they were surprised to see how big Gus had gotten as well. They had not seen us since July 11th, when we left Michigan to come back to NC. The visit with them for Labor Day was amazing and we had a wonderful time with them. They'll also be coming back to NC for Thanksgiving, which should be absolutely amazing to have both of our parents here together! It'll be a very special holiday for us!



Cathy has been asked by Scholastic to stay on as an advisor for another year. It's hard because she's not in a classroom, so she won't have the chance to go to NYC again (the other advisors get to go back to NYC in February), but she's excited to still participate and be as involved as she can be.

Her business has taken on a new set of products just for parents. She's excited to start making items that parents can use (chore charts, calendars, etc.) and can make them year-round. This summer she did a lot of business with teachers, and did more business this summer than last summer. She would have had more business if she had been here in NC during the peak months (June/July).

Steve is still with Burt's Bees and is as happy as ever. He's been adjusting to some changes that have been implemented, but is as eager and excited to go to work each day as he ever has been. He loves what he does, and is so good at it.

Saturday is Cathy (and her twin brother Scott's)'s birthday. She'll be 34!  We'll be going to Outback for dinner, because it's Cathy's favorite place to go! Our friend Jen will be coming with us and it should make for a nice birthday for her. She's so happy to start her 34th year with Gus. She's wanted to be a mom for the longest time, and her birthday will be very special because of having Gus in her life.

The weather here in NC is FINALLY starting to cool off. We're looking forward to the leaves changing colors and the weather to get out of the 90s and 80s and start cooling into the 70s and 60s!

We'll write again soon!

We have had quite a few weeks! We traveled to Michigan on April 30th (Friday) and were in town for Alex's First Communion on Saturday, May 1st. We had a great visit with Cathy's side of our family and enjoyed seeing Scott, Christie, Alex, Lily, and Cathy's parents. We decided to take Cathy's mom and Christie to dinner on Monday, May 3rd to Outback Steakhouse, to celebrate Mother's Day (we wouldn't be in MI for the holiday).

While we were at dinner, Cathy got a message on her phone from Fb from her cousin Jessica that had her phone number and it said to call her. Cathy told her that she'd call her after dinner.

Cathy's cousin Jessica lives in MI and is a nurse. She has a co-worker named Sharon. Well, Jess is on Fb and has been following our journey with us, as many of you have as well.


So a few weeks ago, Sharon came to work and was telling Jess about some things happening in her family. Sharon's sister's daughter (Sharon's niece), had just found out that what they thought was the flu, was actually a pregnancy. So the family was a little concerned and were trying to work out what they were going to do. The niece is a minor, and bascially decided that she wanted to find an adoptive family to adopt her baby.

So Sharon was telling Jess about this and Jess mentioned to Sharon that we were in NC and in the process of adopting. She told Sharon that we had our home study completed and were on the website and waiting for the right match. Jess gave Sharon the link to our profile on the CAS website, just for them to see it if they were interested.


Well... they were interested.


When Cathy called Jess, she told her the story (way more details than she is putting in here) and said that basically, they had chosen us to adopt their baby. We were in shock. When Cathy asked when she was due, Jess said May 28th.

So... Tuesday the 4th started our quest for an attorney in MI because our agency only deals with NC children due to the Interstate Compact Agreement. We talked to Jess a lot and got more and more information.

On Wednesday, we said goodbye to MI and hello to Indiana. We still were trying to work out information with an attorney. We had two that we were talking to and trying to find the right one for the best price.

While in Indiana, we decided to bring home a new puppy that Steve's dad had found. She is super cute and her name is Elphaba, we call we "Elphie" for short. She's really Ned's dog.


We drove back to NC on Saturday the 8th. We got home pretty late... it was after 9pm. Got up on Sunday and did laundry, Steve put together the new crib that Cathy's parents had bought for us while we were in MI (the old one was missing parts to connect the drop down side... and the company informed us that they don't make replacement parts, so her parents just bought us a new one). Then Steve mowed the yard and did the bills.


On Monday, Cathy had lunch with some friends, took Elphie to the vet, got her Rx sunglasses, and got her nails done. Got home and chilled for a little and then headed off to Burt's to pick up Steve for our Old School Showdown at the Old Durham Athletic Park. The Bulls were playing at their old stadium for one last game. We got there around 5:00 and found an awesome parking spot. Then we realized that the gates didn't open until 6, so we just sat in the car, slowly watching everyone start to arrive and park.

At 5:40ish... Cathy got a cell phone call from Sharon. Instantly she was confused, because she had only been texting Sharon, but she answered the phone and Sharon said, "Hi... it's Sharon. I wanted to let you know that she's in labor..." so a little bit of panic ensued, but we left the parking lot immediately, headed home, called our parents and freaked out a little (A LOT), and got home around 6:00. We threw as much as we could into bags and packed the baby stuff that we thought we'd need, and loaded up the car.

Our neighbor, Wendy, is a life-saver. She came over with blankets and clothes, and said she'd watch the cats for us. She also said she'd watch the dogs overnight, and take them to the vet in the morning to be boarded. We were on the road by 7:30 pm.

We drove through the night and at 3:40 Cathy got a text from Sharon's sister (the birth-grandma) that said it wouldn't be long and the birth mom was doing well. Then at 3:51 I got another text that said, "It's a boy!" I started crying... not only was I excited that the baby was born, but I was exhausted, stressed, and a HUGE ball of emotions! Oh, and I was in the middle of WV. HA!


We ended up getting a picture of Gus a few hours later and that's what killed us. Seeing that he was real and was going to be our son was too much. We both cried and kept on trucking to MI.


We went straight to the hospital and arrived there around 8:30. The nurses were aware of the situation and knew that we were coming. When we got there, they showed us to the room and we walked in and met his grandma and mom. They were very kind, and baby G was laying in the crib thingy. Then his birth grandma picked him up and brought him over to us and gave him to Cathy to hold. She instantly broke down and was crying like a baby. It was amazing to hold him for the first time and to realize that he was her son! Then Steve held him and he started crying too and it was an amazing first moment as a family.


We stayed in the room with them for a while and then they wanted the mom to take a shower, so we headed out of the room and into the room that they had set aside for us to stay in. It was very thoughtful. Cathy was given the other id bracelet (the baby and mom have to have the same matching numbers on their bands) and we went to the room. We talked to the grandma for a while and got some info and just tried to settle our nerves.


The remainder of the hospital stay is a blur at this point, but we spent most of the morning of the 11th with him. He was 6 pounds 8 oz at birth, 19 inches long and his head was 12.75. He has blondish hair with some red, but not a lot. He has beautiful blue eyes.


We asked if they had a preference for a name and they said they wanted us to name him. We started calling him Gus from that point on. :D Cathy's parents, Christie, and Lily came up to the hospital on Tuesday night to meet him, and they were in the room with everyone. It was very neat to have Gus's birth family there with his adoptive family. One big group all together for the love of one beautiful baby boy.


The mom was released from the hospital on Wednesday the 12th around 11:30. Then Gus was released around 1:30. We were able to say our "see you laters" to his family and it wasn't an awful exchange. We are going to have as open of a relationship with them as they are comfortable with.

We headed to our extended stay hotel with Gus and enjoyed spending time with family. Over the course of a few days, we were visited by several friends and surrounded by Cathy's side of our family. We feel so fortunate to be here in Michigan with family to be apart of the first moments of Gus's life.

There have been some ups and downs during our stay, and we have moved hotels... but it's pretty good. Steve has to fly back to North Carolina while Cathy and Gus stay in Michigan and wait to be cleared from the Interstate Compact. Gus is a great baby and is growing each day! His looks have changed so much from the 11th to now!!

Be sure to check in for more updates on our family!!
:)
The Walkers

We are on the CAS website!!! Definitely check out our profile!!! We are on the bottom of the first page!! We were placed on the website this past Wednesday (April 7th). We are super excited and cannot wait for whatever happens next!!

We had the Wake County Teacher of the Year Semi-Finals Reception on Wednesday night. We went with Cathy's principal and her IRT (Instructional Resource Teacher) and had a nice time. They called each semi-finalist up and gave them a keychain that says "2010 Teacher of the Year" and then announced the finalists.

Cathy was not one of the 12 finalists that they named, and while there was a bit of disappointment, she was proud nonetheless. She would have had to do an interview with the committee of 20 people- which was a bit overwhelming to her. She was just honored that her fellow teachers had chosen her as the Oak Grove TOY.

There are more than 9,000 teachers in the county and of them, there were 190 named as Teachers of the Year for their individual schools. Of those 190, Cathy was in the top 24 which is something to be very proud of. The group of 12 is made up of a lot of middle school and high school teachers (only five elementary teachers) and several men and minorities.

We received another package for Tadpole Walker this week. Cathy's friend Andrea (from Phi Sigma Pi) sent us some goodies and we were pleasantly surprised with her gift. We have quite a lot of things for Tadpole and our collection keeps growing. We don't have any bottles or safety things, and very few clothes, but hopefully those will come when we get matched.

Anyway- it's been a beautiful weekend here in NC and we're both doing well. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers as we wait for Tadpole. As they say, the waiting is the hardest part.

With love,
The Walkers

We are on the waiting list!!! YAY!! We went to Charlotte yesterday to meet with Doris and spent about two and a half hours talking with her and sharing more about ourselves. It was a great visit and the best part was leaving the three Adoptive Family Albums and Expectant Mother letters with her! We should be on the CAS website in about a week or two.

Things are going well for both of us at work. Cathy has the Semi-Finals Reception on Wednesday for Wake County Teacher of the Year. She'll find out if she has been selected for the Finals (top 12 teachers in the county) on Wednesday night and she's already nervous about it. She had her observation at the beginning of March and didn't really get any feedback (positive or negative) about her observation. She wrote about it in her blog, so if you're interested in getting more information, definitely read her blog.

Steve is getting excited for the 3rd Annual Planet Earth Celebration with Burt's on the 17th of April. We'll be going downtown and volunteering, though we don't know what we'll be doing this year.

Steve is especially proud of recent accomplishments at work. His hard work and determination has helped lead Burt's to being a 100% Zero-Landfill company! That means that everything that they use each day is diverted to other places, and NOTHING goes to the landfill!! This is quite a feat and Steve is very proud of his effort, but also proud to work for a company that is able to do what many are not!

This weekend (tomorrow) we have our first Bulls game of the season. It's not the regular season yet, but we're going to the DBAP for the first ever game of the Bulls versus the Rays! A Minor League team versus their Major League Affiliate team!! We are going to cheer loudly for the Bulls and are excited for the forecasted 80 degree day tomorrow!! What a great way to spend the weekend!!

Last night we celebrated as we watched UD (University of Dayton) beat UNC (University of North Carolina Chapel Hill) in the NIT College Men's Basketball Championship!! It was a great game and UD won 79 to 68!! It was a HUGE victory and Steve was especially excited. When on Earth would UD ever have the chance to play a power-house like UNC??? And then to win... it was amazing!! Steve wore his UD Basketball t-shirt to work today and proudly took his UD Flag that Cathy's parents bought him last year for Christmas. He is definitely soaking up the win!!

That's about all the news for us for now. We'll keep everyone updated on things with the adoption for sure. We were told that it could be very soon that we're matched, or a while. It's all a matter of what God has in store for us and we're asking for plenty of patience... and all the prayers that we can get!!

We've had several people ask about our registry (we're not having a baby shower), so we thought we'd put it out there again. We posted it a few months ago, but if anyone is curious about it here's the link again: http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/baby/2JQYX39EHGS21.

We'll write again soon...
:)
The Walkers

We had our last home study meeting on Thursday!! Walt came to our house at 6:30 and unlike the other two visits, he actually stayed for the full two hours. He took a tour of the house, and was taking notes the whole time.

When the tour was finished, we sat down in the dining room and talked about what happens next, and he had some additional questions for us. Bascially, he has to complete the home study report (he said he should have it done in less than a week or so), then he'll send us a copy (email) to look over and approve. Once we've approved it, he'll send it to the agency and they'll meet and approve it. He said that within two to four weeks we should hear from Doris to come to the agency and give her our books and pictures for the website.

He also said that the average wait right now is seven to nine months. We hope it doesn't take that long!! Anyway, he said that he doesn't see why there'd be any problem with our approval, so now we just wait.

:)
The Walkers

Hello friends! We hope this finds you all well! We are doing fabulous and are excited to share some recent updates with you all.

First, we had our second home study meeting this past Tuesday. We had to reschedule it from the 28th because Steve was violently ill. He spent his 35th birthday being very sick. Fortunately, he was only sick for a few days, but he was out of work for almost a week and was severely dehydrated and couldn't quite shake it. He's pretty certain that it was food poisioning from eating at Tossed.

Anyway, Cathy made Steve a cake for his birthday and that was good enough for him.

We went to Clayton on Tuesday to meet with Walt. This second visit was when he was going to meet with us both separately. He said it would take roughly two hours, so we went into it expecting to be grilled. Steve went first and was back to get Cathy after about 30 minutes. Then Cathy went in and met with him and was done in 20 minutes. We were on our way home in an hour from the time that we arrived.

He asked us questions about our parents and siblings, he also asked a few questions about our previous marriages. It was really easy and surprised us both that there wasn't more to it than that. Walt told Cathy that he thinks that we're a delightful couple and that he thinks we're very transparent. He likes that what you see is what you get and we're not trying to be something that we're not. He said he bets our home is a lot of fun. :)

We have our final home study this Thursday. Cathy tracks back in and then we have Walt coming over to the house around 6:30. We don't know how long this visit will be, but we're not expecting it to last any more than two hours at the most.

We've been recieving so many wonderful gifts for Tadpole Walker. We received the diaper bag that Cathy really wanted from her hair stylist Shannon. She also gave us four books that we wanted that are children's books on adoption. We also got a froggy johnny jumper from Kim (Cathy works with her) and then we also got a toy bag, froggy towels and another children's book on adoption from Mindy and Jason (Mindy is Cathy's little sister in AGD). Sue Ann sent us a cute frog blanket (pictured in the slide show) and some onesies. We're so lucky to have such great friends and family who are supporting us.

This week we decided to "save our marriage" and hire a cleaning service. Steve is having a hard time with the idea of paying someone to clean our house, but thanks to his coworker Christie, he decided to just give in. Cathy is very excited because we'll have someone coming every other week and they'll do all the dirty work. We'll just have to pick up and maintain, but it'll be so nice to have it vacuumed and clean!!

Cathy goes back to work on Thursday. She is going to go into work Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday and get some work done, so her vacation is pretty much over. She is going to be going to NYC at the end of the month for a wonderful opportunity with Scholastic. She's excited-- you can read more about it on her blog.

Well, we'll be sure to post something next weekend about the final home study visit. Pray for us that we're called by Doris soon and able to get put on the waiting list! Cathy (and her mom) has a good feeling about March. Her psychic said that March would bring a lot of change for us... so maybe that means placement!

Wishing you well,
The Walkers

Well... we were contacted by CAS two weeks ago (January 7th) and went on the 14th for our first home study meeting. Cathy was SO nervous!! We met at the Clayton Public Library and our case manager's name is Walt. Walt is the supervisor for all the CAS case workers and he's the one that signs off on their home study reports. Because he's the supervisor, his (our) home study report will be signed off by Jim (co-founder of CAS).


Walt told us that he was pleasantly surprised by the amount of information that we provided in our formal application paperwork. He said that the average couple will submit anywhere from 5-8 pages for their autobiographies, and Steve submitted 22 and Cathy submitted 28. We officially hold the record for the most information provided!! Whoo hoo!!


Because we submitted so much information, Walt contacted Jim and asked him what he should be talking with us about since everything he would have asked us was already answered in our paperwork.  As a result, our meeting didn't last the typical two hours, it was actually a little more than one hour. He said he doesn't think our process will take very long and he's anticipating a quick placement for us. He said he'd be surprised if we had to wait longer than June for a baby!! YAY!!


So... we ended up scheduling our next meeting for the 28th. We'll be going back to Clayton to meet with Walt and this time he'll meet with Steve for 45 minutes and then with Cathy for 45 minutes. After that, we'll schedule our home visit where he'll come to our house and do our final meeting.


After the final meeting, Walt will write up his home study report and it'll go before a committee and they'll either approve us or deny us as a waiting family. We'll (hopefully) get a call from Doris (Jim's wife and co-founder of CAS) and we'll take our three Adoptive Family Albums, and our pictures for the website, and our Dear Birthmother letter and we'll give it all to her. At that point we'll be on the waiting list and just wait to be matched with a birth mother!


So when Cathy's dad was here he and Steve built shelves in the FROG. Last weekend we moved books from the plastic shelves that we had onto the new book shelves and the FROG practically doubled in size! We'll be adding items from the spare bedroom this weekend (Cathy's C4 desk) and then that room will be the nursery. We are going to put the crib together this weekend and put it in there.


This week Cathy discovered Craig's List and we actually bought just about everything that we need for our little tadpole! We have a frog theme, and we found "Sir Leapsalot" bedding-- it's super cute. It's a frog prince and princess and it's lavender, yellow, celery, and cream (very gender neutral) and then it came with a cute lamp, a diaper holder thingy, a changing pad, a really pretty picture of the two frogs, and then we also got two valances for the windows.


We also got two strollers-- one for easy trips, and then one that is our travel system, we also got a changing table, a high chair, an exersaucer, some toys, and then the car seat. We're super excited!!


We'll keep you posted on everything as it comes about... until the next posting please keep us in your prayers!!
:)
The Walkers

Happy New Year!!

We welcomed 2010 with Cathy's mom and dad and some delicious snacks! Cathy's parents arrived in Holly Springs on Sunday, December 27th and they've been with us for almost a week. They're planning on going back to Michigan Saturday morning.  :(

Our Christmas was fabulous! Cathy was well-spoiled with a Kindle, a Nintendo DSi, and a Flip camera. She also got the accessories that go with the Kindle, some DSi games, books for her Kindle, a beautiful bracelet, a beautiful ring, some shoes, 90210 season eight, and some other books. Steve got a personalized Bengals jersey with Walker on the back, a Carson Palmer Bengals jersey, some books, a Bengals grill cover, a Keurg coffee grinder thingy for the K-Cup maker, and then some shirts, a pair of shoes, and everything else that was on his wish list!

We figure it's our last Christmas to go all out on each other (hopefully) and so we went a little over-board, but that's okay.

While Cathy's parents have been here, we asked her dad if he'd be willing to help us by making some shelves for the FROG (front room over the garage). He was more than happy to help, and he and Steve have spent the entire week working on building shelves. We're so excited because with the shelves in there, Cathy can put all her classroom books on the shelves, and then we'll be able to take the plastic shelves out. It makes for more room and makes the FROG so much more useful! We are super excited too because we'll have the room cleaned and looking nice for when we have the home study. That room is the main room that we've been stressed about, and it's so nice to know that it's almost ready to be used!

Cathy is going to move her desk for C4 in there, and then she can also do scrapbooking in there. We're also going to move our love seat from our bedroom into the FROG and we'll have a television in there as well. It'll be a nice "get-away" room.

The last of our four CAS reference letters has been sent out and is being worked on. We had a minor blip because one of the people that we had asked to write a letter for us was not able to commit, and so CAS has had to use another person. Once they get their letter (she said she's going to mail it Monday), then CAS will contact us and we can schedule the home study. We'll post more when we have more details!

We hope that everyone had a nice Christmas and a fantastic New Years!! We're really praying that 2010 is a blessed year for us. We hope that this time next year, we have a family and we can post about what wonderful things our little baby is doing!!

Love to all!
The Walkers